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You can write to her at askleah theverge. After coming off a long-term relationship think nearly a decade I need to stay single for a while and rediscover myself. That said, good sex is something that I very much enjoy and am looking for. While I am looking for casual sex or friends with benefits right now, advertising this seems to degrade conversations to focus on just sex and I tend to be more attracted to personalities. I have also been in a wonderful relationship with an amazing woman in this time but I was struggling to find the space I needed for myself.
And despite how good everything else was, I needed the space to find myself more. I have tried to be as upfront with everyone as possible about where I am and what I am looking for, but I only seem to disappoint and hurt people. Maybe I can stop caring so much about the people I meet and their feelings toward me, but everyone I have met so far has been wonderful and worthy of some respect. A long time ago I had a voice coach who I saw once a week. This guy was incredible. He also had a rare ability to make me believe in myself. More than that even — he could make me believe in my voice.
And while all this coaching and singing was going on, there was also sometimes a little chatting. Anyway, one time we were talking sex and dating. Now, this guy was cool as hell. So it struck me when he said, "One of the problems with having sex super early in a relationship is that it can create a false Seek intimate relation of intimacy between two people getting to know one another. Somehow it never quite stuck, as much as I wanted it to, and as much as I wanted to wait and get to know people. I ended up stuck to at least one person for a long time because the sex was so good, and I ended up feeling connected to plenty more based on what amounted to very little closeness.
Right, that makes sense! I mean, yes, sex with a total stranger can be great. Some people think the emotional aspect can make sex too heavy or less hot or comfortable in the boring way. Some people find a lot of pleasure in the purely physical, or at least the physical as heavily privileged over the emotional. You prefer to connect with people emotionally as well as physically. Being close to and comfortable with someone brings in trust and allows you to relax in very special ways. You can perform a lot less, be a lot more honest, and hopefully learn how to please one another.
Note: here I mean consensual sex, as stopping non-consensual sex is a different topic. You want to be out there discovering who you are as a non-relationshipped person — Seek intimate relation I totally encourage.
But you still want to be close to people, to be intimate and caring. What I think is happening is your partners are picking up on this desire. Compounding that is the fact that people — all of us! I guess some people would be okay with mediocre or bad sex rather than no sex, but I am not one of them.
But I think what you need to be is honest and up front with yourself as much as with your partners.
You like emotional intimacy. You like closeness. I want you to explore what kinds of honest relationships you can have besides "friends with benefits" vs. We can never fully avoid hurting people with whom we are intimate, no matter how hard we try. But I Seek intimate relation we can mitigate the hurt a little bit by moving through the world with a stronger, deeper self-awareness, especially in terms of how our actions and behaviors affect and impact those around us.
Seek intimate relation get honest with yourself. Observe yourself. Listen to your own voice. Get a better sense of what you ask for and what you give, and of what deeper desires are really driving you. That will help guide you. I think it might even help guide you to relationships with people who want the kinds of intimacy you want right now, with the boundaries and constraints that allow you to explore who you are while exploring who they are, too.
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