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While they may seem identical, loving a partner and being in love with a partner are two totally different things. They often share a lot of the same qualities, like butterflies, excitement, and a desire to spend every waking moment together.
But the latter often runs a bit deeper than the former — in subtle but important ways. Carla Marie Manlya clinical psychologist and author of the upcoming book Date Smarttells Bustle. So what should you do if it seems like you have the other kind of love?
It can be a tough realization, but one that will open doors to finding someone who truly ticks all the right boxes. Here, 15 more ways to tell the difference between love and being in loveso you can make the best choice for you. Josh Klapowa clinical psychologist, tells Bustle. Think big things like moving, leaving a job, etc.
And therein lies the difference. Julie Gurner tells Bustle. Couples who are in love often make sex a priority while also making an effort outside the bedroomshe says. If you catch yourself feeling more like roommates, or complaining to friends that something major is missing in your relationship, Gurner says it may be a you're not really in love.
Another way to look at it?
Whenever something goes wrong, you turn towards each other instead of away. Another way to tell the difference between having a ton of chemistry and being in love is if you start to lose interest after the infatuation or honeymoon stage of the relationship comes to an end. In this initial stage, sexual energy runs high, Manly says. Infatuation can turn into romantic, genuine love as time goes on and you get to know one another better. Take note of your word choice when talking about your partner. When you're truly in love, you "become more sensitive and empathetic to this person," relationship expert Dr.
When they're happy, you're happy. And when they're sad, so are you. The same can be true for friends and family and other types of platonic love. Since you care about these people, their emotions will impact how you feel. But when it comes to being in love with a partner, that empathy will be next-level.
This one is tricky because in the early stages of infatuation, it really can feel like you need your partner in your life.
When you're in love with someone, you're more likely to do whatever it takes to see them and spend time with them. So if you can't be bothered to muster the energy to see your partner, you may not be in love. This means seeking out quality time and regular, mutual intimacy.
Couples who practically live separate lives might love each other, but the 'in love' feeling has most likely faded. If this is happening in your relationship, it's certainly possible to rekindle those early flames and get back to feeling devoted and in love. One way to do so is by purposefully spending more time togetherespecially if busy schedules have pulled you apart. Go on a date, plan a vacation, or simply have breakfast together more often.
Carla Marie Manlyclinical psychologist. Josh Klapowclinical psychologist. Julie Gurnerpsychologist. Laurel Houserelationship expert. Jonathan Bennettcertified counselor. By Carolyn Steber. Updated: May 25, Originally Published: March 30,
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When Your Partner Loves You, but They’re Not “In Love” With You